As I Have Loved You, Love One Another

Title:  "As I have loved you, love one another." By Pastor Lohn Johnson

Text:  John 13:34-35   34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.  35 By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another."

INTRODUCTION: My dear friends in Christ, A group of boys and girls, ages 4‑8 was asked, “What does love mean?” Here are some of their answers:

“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” Karl - age 5 “Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.” Emily - age 8 “Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it every day.” Noelle - age 7 “Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Brad Pitt.” Chris - age 7 “You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.” Jessica - age 8

I. Most of these kids define love on an emotional level.  Our society does the same thing.  We see it over and over in books, on TV and in the movies.

A. This view of love teaches us that love is an emotion deep down within our heart; it’s a feeling, a strong feeling that can make us do things and say things we would never say or do if we didn’t have love.

1.  And so when Jesus says in John 13, “A new command I give you: Love one another as I have loved you,” we may think to ourselves, “Jesus is requiring us to feel love for all those unlovable people around us and act on it.”

a. And we even go further, we dumb this down and think that we’re obeying Jesus’ command to love one another if we simply are nice to each other.    b. As long as we smile and put our best foot forward; hold the door; give a warm handshake…if we do these things, what more could Jesus want from us?  We’re showing love to each other, aren’t we?

2. The problem is that Jesus says, “By this all men will know that you are My disciples; if you love one another.”  Now I’ve never been inside a Buddhist temple or a Muslim Mosque, but I would expect that some of the people there would treat each other no different than what this dumbed down emotional love brings.  And they are not Jesus’ disciples.

a. In fact, they may show more love for each other there than we do here.  They may actually have more feeling for each other than we have here.   b. Do we really love each other as Jesus commands?  If an outsider were to observe the effort we put into our worship, would he conclude that we are Jesus’ disciples?  He may reach the conclusion that the Buddhists or Muslims love their god more than we love ours.  Based on the emotional view of love we Christians may not seem any different than those who are clearly not Jesus’ disciples.

B. But Love is not just an emotion.  Rather, the Bible says, “Love is the fulfillment of the Law.”

1. When Jesus says, “Love one another,” He is not commanding us to be nice to each other.  He goes much further and urges us to show our love to each other by keeping the Ten Commandments.

a. Christian parents who do not teach Jesus to their children in their home, and who do not bring their children to church, do not love their children, because they are not obeying God’s clear command.    b. Husbands and wives, who are unfaithful to each other, do not love each other, for they are disobeying God’s command.    c. Children, who disobey parents, teachers, and others over them, do not have love, for they are disobeying God’s command.    d. And don’t say that you love God if you disregard His command to faithfully hear the preaching of His Word, because love is not a feeling in your heart—it is striving to obey God’s commands.

2. “By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”  But we don’t love each other by this standard or any other standard.

a. And I am just as guilty as you.  I fail to love you as I should.  It doesn’t matter how nice I am to you.  What matters is that I obey God’s command to serve you as He has directed me in His Word.   b. And I fail miserably in this day after day.  There isn’t one of us who loves as Jesus commands.  Even on those days when we really strive to obey God, we always fall short.  None of us can love according to this definition or any other.

II. But here Jesus says, “I have loved you.”  That’s different from, “I love you.”  It’s in the past tense…”I have loved you.”  “Love one another as I have loved you.”

A. This is wonderful comfort and hope for us.  Jesus doesn’t say, “I love you,” as though He has strong feelings for us.  He says, “I have loved you.”

1. Love is the fulfillment of the Law, and Jesus did that for you.  He kept the whole Law in your place, and He was crushed by the Law’s penalty for you on the cross.  Jesus gave Himself up for you.  He suffered the punishments that we, by our sins, have deserved.  He died your death.  The cross of our Lord tells us who He is…He is the One who loved us by enduring hell for us.

a. Jesus’ love is unconditional: Jesus Christ went to the cross and died for your sins, expecting and demanding nothing in return.   b. It is great comfort to hear Jesus say, not, “as you love each other so will I love you,” but rather,” “I have loved you.”  Even before you were born, Jesus loved you.  While we were His enemies, He loved us.  Jesus did not look for love in your heart before He died for you.  Because of His love for you, He died.  Because our hearts were full of sin, He died.  It’s because there was no love within us that He went to the cross for us.

2. “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.”  All men will know, but not Jesus.

a.  Jesus knows you are His disciple not because of your love for others, but because of His love for you—His love which poured out of His hands, feet, and side for you; His love which was sprinkled on your head in the Name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit; His love which is given to you in bread and wine.  You don’t have to prove your love to God.  He doesn’t look at what you do, but at what He does for you.  He calls you His dear child not because you love your neighbor here, but because He made you His own in your baptism.    b. Like this: One pastor tells about a rambunctious little boy named Jarek. Jarek was four years old, and the pastor was performing the marriage ceremony of Jarek’s mother, Danielle, to a man named Andy. Both Danielle and Andy had recently come to believe in Christ.  Jarek was Danielle’s son from a former relationship. Jarek didn’t know who his father was. He didn’t really have a daddy. Jarek’s skin was much darker than Andy’s, so people could tell he was not Andy’s boy. Jarek seemed to know that. Out of his fear and anxiety he was always restless and running about, never sitting still. When his duties were fulfilled as the ring bearer in the wedding, Jarek was all over the place. He wouldn’t sit still. By the time they got to the vows he was quarantined in the front row with relatives on either side holding him down.

As the pastor began to lead bride and bridegroom in the ring ceremony, with Jarek squirming and making noises, all at once Andy stopped the ceremony. “Pastor,” he said to the pastor, “I have to say something.” Andy turned around with everybody watching. Jarek was still squirming in his seat. Andy said, “Jarek.” The boy froze. “Jarek,” Andy continued, “I love you with all my heart and I will always be your daddy, and you will always be my son.” Then something remarkable happened. Jarek got still. He did not move the rest of the service. (6) Jarek was about to discover what it means to be loved.  Jesus does that to us through the Word and Sacraments.  Now we know what it means to be loved.

B. Jesus says, "As I have loved you, love one another." So now we are called upon to love as Christ has loved us.

1. What does this mean?  It means as Jesus has loved and selflessly served you, so you are moved to love and selflessly serve others.  This means that, as Christians, our lives are moved to be full of selfless service to other people.  It means that you are called upon selflessly to serve your neighbor in whatever positions God has given you.

a. Are you a mother? Then you have the holy position of motherhood.  Parents have the holy position of parenting, and children have the position of honoring their parents.  No matter who you are, you have several positions: Employer, employee, husband, wife, single, student, teacher, soldier, commander, pastor, parishioner… the list goes on and on.   b. We are tempted to view these things as the jobs we're stuck with, but that's our sinful-self talking. According to the Lord, He has put you where you are in order to do His will. This means it is within these positions that God has given, that you are to love one another.

2.  It is not a matter of making people feel good, or serving so long as we feel good; it is a matter of treating people according to God's Law and Gospel.

3. “Love each other,” He says, “As I have loved you.”  Will we?  Will you?  Will I?  Not a chance.

a. Jesus’ love is perfect.  We sinners always fall short.  But we are moved to strive to love.  We strive to love because He has loved us.  And in this others will know we are His disciples. And where we fail, He forgives.  He doesn’t forgive because we try to love.  He forgives you because He died for you.   b. We have something here that the Buddhists and Muslims do not have.  They may be nicer to each other (I don’t know).  They may be more dedicated to what they believe in.  But we have Jesus’ forgiveness.  We have His living Word which bespeaks us righteous.  We have His body and blood which gives us life in His name.

CONCLUSION: And so after each day of dealing with life’s problems; visiting with neighbors; rubbing shoulders with coworkers; interacting with the family; when we finally rest our head upon our pillow and we confess that we have not loved others as Jesus has loved us, we can take comfort in the fact that Jesus has loved us nevertheless.  And He forgives you nonetheless.  And that truth stands forever, no matter how much or how little love we have.  Amen.